Facing Race: A National Conference in St. Louis, MO — November 20-22, 2024

Melia Dunn

Consultant | Melia Dunn Consulting - inclusion, embraced
Pronouns: she/her

Presentations from Facing Race 2022

Know Your Lane: Examining the Futility and Harm of Racing into Allyship Without Checking Your Privilege

“There’s really nothing like the self-righteousness of the partially informed.” - Karen Kilgariff*

Although from two very different vantage points of identity, both presenters react to Karen’s insight with a similar “Oh, damn...that’s the truth!” response. Having experienced, witnessed and owning up to their own periods of partially informed self-righteousness, Jasmine and Melia share their stories of unproductive allyship, damaged relationships and stalled (or backwards) progress all in the name of “good intentions.” Encouraged by the groundswell of white folx getting involved in anti-racism, this workshop is designed to help emerging allies break typical patterns of privilege - saviorism, fragility, performative behavior - and develop more effective ways to show up in solidarity with BIPOC. When learning to ride a bike or drive a car, you start in the empty parking lot, keeping yourself and others safe. Learning effective allyship deserves the same care. When you Know your Lane you operate as a safe, trusted and effective ally. No swerving or speeding to get ahead, rather following the direction and pace of the Movement. Through story-telling, small group discussions and journaling, participants will learn to recognize and avoid common allyship missteps, build resilience to reframe “call-outs” as gifts for personal growth and assess where they currently land on an allyship continuum. Taking ownership of previously harmful behaviors, participants will leave with new insights - knowing better to do better.

*total coincidence that our quote comes from a white woman named Karen. It is what it is.

Speakers: Jasmine Snipes, Melia Dunn